Why?
Why do people still invest so much in relationships when there is so much at stake?
Something that seems so necessary, is so risky (and may not actually be worth it)…
The realist
Would say that your love isn’t enough. Everyone has their own definition of what being treated well is…
that type of relationship
where one person is an idealist
and the other person is more of a realist
you know, one of those couples.
everyone
has something to hide.
The blessing of not being in a relationship
Is to be able to go to sleep without wondering what’s on someone else’s mind.
i had a bad day.
you know someone loves you when they don’t leave you at your worst.
values.
I have noticed one general trend through my (almost) twenty years of acquiring interpersonal skills..
We meet people, make friends, attain acquaintances but only some stick close to the heart. Those who are closest, will most often share a similar set of values as you.
and the ability to establish a middle ground between two people where their values do not meet determines the strength of the relationship.
I am so lucky to have met some pretty awesome people whom I share a similar set of values with. The best part is when we debate over our differing sets of values. A beautiful part of loving is to teach - because if it is not through love which you teach, what is the point of learning?
I like to dive into the human mind
One of the most beautiful things in life is to be able to witness change. I am certainly most fascinated by how people change as they grow up. It’s hard to notice change in people you see on a daily basis - but when you step away for a month or two and look back at the things you use to joke and talk about, it’s amazing to see where you came from.
I’m so proud of you - so proud of the person you’ve become.
A woman who is confident and compelling with style.
A man who is charming and modest yet still genuine. (of course, still with style)
However, not everyone has changed for the better. Some won’t learn and certainly I do not contain the power to change them. That may be why I have been forced to leave them in my past. But baggage will always be baggage.
A relationship
is all about finding the middle ground between two people.
How do you know when you really love someone?
How do you know someone really loves you?
I was wrong.
Through past experience, I have learnt to never expect someone to change.
To love for what they do, what they believe in, their past and their present- to accept someone for who they are.
But I was wrong. One can change for love.
I never believed so - because it has never been the right kind of love.
(if he loves you he’ll do what ever it takes to keep you - vice versa.)
bend and not break.
It wasn’t about the money. It wasn’t about the past. it was because our value of loving each other - what it means to love someone - that was different, that bothered me.
the thesis.
I realized what love means to me.
When you love someone, you’d think of them before yourself. Be it offering the last piece of your favourite food or making a life decision. ”Everything I do, I do it for you” because making them happy, makes you happy too.
And if you’re lucky enough, you’ll love someone who loves you too. (When two people share a happiness of making each other happy - that is happily ever after.)
